How Can We Be Happier?

How Can We Be Happier?

You want to dance to your own rhythm right?

Do anything you want without criticism?

Get rid of toxic people?

Be in control?

Happier?

Stop Thinking About

1.Past Mistakes

Nobody is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes; its part of being human. You are allowed to cut yourself a margin of error. Be easy on yourself.

2.Failure

Everyone is scared to be labeled a “Failure”. And what is so frightening about the idea? Basically, it depends on your mindset to failure. If you see failure as not being flawless. You are going to be miserable.

If you haven’t given up technically, then, you are not a failure. Consider failure as a tuition fee, a trial and error procedure. See failure as your weapon.

3.Got To have.

People by default somewhat tend to go on the lack rather than plenty. Do not focus on what you don’t have,it is exhausting.
What the heck? Why not focus on what you have and what you do not.

Why torment yourself with all the things you don’t have? That type of thinking will not serve you in any fruitful way at all. Think about all the things in your life that you are grateful. There will always be others with plenty and others with less. What you have is decent. Don’t beat yourself up?

4.Worries

You can turn nuts thinking about the “what if’s”. Anxious about what might happen in the offing. No one can anticipate what will happen next (unless you are a psychic), there is no point in beating yourself about things that is not in any way going to happen. Think; this kind of worry is useless activity, Divert your mind. Face worry, bang! – if you can do a thing now? then do it, If not, occupy yourself and ‘put off’ the doubts.

5. It would be great, “only if” thinking.

When you believe that you will be happy once something has happened, You completely put your life on default until the event happens.

Be in the “Now” moment more and care less about being happy in the future. Decide to be happy now. Happiness is not a station, it's the trip.

6. Cry Over Spilt Milk

Regret is a part of life. The past cannot be undone, so it pays to look at what you have done in life as a person. Whats the moral of the story? If you learned never to do it again or to try other ways, as a result; Accept what has happened, make room for human error and move on. No use crying over spilled milk.

7. Fear Of Rejection

Many of us are so scared of rejection that we stay in our easy territory and never risk real closeness between people. Wear your heart on your sleeve and risk being defenseless. The more you hide out of fear, the greater the fear will develop. Show yourself that you can express your feelings and live with the result. You will conquer fear of rejection in this way and feel more carefree. Even if the outcome is not as expected, you will soon realize that it wasn’t as bad as you anticipated and that you can deal with it. Be a little more thick skinned, be brave and see life as an experience.

8. Public Opinion

Be slim, be pretty. Flaunt your money and prestige and at that instant you’ll be loved intensely? What nonsense. When you are confident, you don’t need to justify yourself to anyone. Don’t subscribe into the nonstop media model of perfection. Most of the images are either filtered or edited and lead us to accept that we become flawless. Don’t take it personally. Everybody prefer perfect appearance, but don’t forget the fact that nearly all can be technologically enhanced and not natural. Love yourself, flaw and all. Self approval is real power.

9. Approval

It’s not difficult to sense that we don’t measure up somehow. We live in a combative world. It’s acceptable and even normal to need to improve and be better as a person. It becomes bad, though, when we internalize cynical ideas about how we aren’t worthy enough. Think about, What is “qualified enough”? Where is the globally accepted standard manual that analyze what “qualified enough” is? As long as you feel satisfied, wheresoever and the distance you have reach, that’s about the size of it.

We are all anxious needlessly and create our own inner pain. Remember my suggestions, you may now cross out from your anxiety or fear list all the worries that is making you unhappy.

By: Noli G. Cerrillo

( little Amira Mionette Cerrillo appear as model in this post.)

(Credits to the owner of the picture used in the making of this blog- No copyright infrigement intended)

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