How You Can Ignore Insult

How You Can Ignore An Insult

Let me borrow a quote from Judith Martin;
When people start hurling insults at you, you know their minds are closed and there's no point in debating. You should disengage yourself as quickly as possible from the situation. Sounds logical right?

Think of all the anxiety you could prevent and the weight you could remove if you made the choice to disregard a trivial misdeed or a petty slander, or a casual slur-or even a deliberate one.

Our response to the direction of our daily activity are optional, and we always have a choice.

The next instance someone is pushy with you, decline to care about it.

Its your discretion. Or prefer to smile, or even create humor out of it (But do this when the provoker is not around of-course)

By Noli G. Cerrillo

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BREAKING NEWS

Breaking News!

Bad News Is Really Bad For You

Do You Really Want To Give Your Time And Energy Drowning Yourself In Bad News So You Can Appear

Well Informed To Someone You Perhaps Don’t Even Care About?

When I decided to simplify my life, I particularly canceled my habit to reading the daily news.

My aim was really to make more time for the kind of reading and thinking I really want to do, and I wanted to economize on the chunk of physical, emotional and psychological disarray that came into my domain via media

In analyzing the advantage of my media cut off, the most important benefit was with my vulnerability to the psychological and emotional stress of what passes as news. I lessened the anxiety of terrorism, starvation, calamities, atrocities, political controversies, corruption, the fall of the economy, the apparent worsening of immorality.

While you begin to go inward, you might need to consider cutting back on the frequency you spend in keeping pace with current affairs.

Few things can upset your peace of mind as quicker than a shock of bad news. The bad part is that: Until we are adjusted into our focus: Were frequently not even familiar of the negative blow tuning into the obvious bad situations of the world can have an effect on us.

I realized it was a great release to be able to pull the plug from the negativity of daily news.

Do not get me wrong, Yes, Journalism was my passion in college and society needs Journalism-but in a diverse way. Investigative Journalism is always significant. We need reporting that polices and uphold organization and institution. To uncover truth.

There will always be people and media businesses hunting bad news. And there will always be people who are absorbed to it.

But if you are taking off on a spiritual journey or simply wanting a peaceful life, it is surely that you will choose real personal growth than your urge to be constantly in the know.

At the absolute minimum, you may desire to be discriminating about the kind and the load of information you allow yourself to be challenged with.

Throwing out even some of the psychological garbage of bad news will considerably aid your inner tranquility.

Just this morning my neighbor ask me what I think about the latest controversy involving the President since during the campaign a was so vocal in social media expressing difference in opinions and opposing views.

This time I was quick to tell them “I try not to think about the current events.” It has captured quite of my time to get to the realization that I could concede openly that the latest news is simply not my bigger interest.

I do not have to make people feel “in the wrong” because they prefer to waste their time tracking some breaking headlines.

If the latest headline is your excitement, or it is your job, then you’ll certainly desire to remain knowledgeable. But if you are keeping up with the news just so you can show to be in the “Know” when someone who is doing the same stuff ask you about it, most probably you need to think about your priorities.

Do You Really Want To Give Your Time And Energy Drowning Yourself In Bad News So You Can Appear

Well Informed To Someone You Perhaps Don’t Even Care About?

If you want to keep in touch with what is going on in the planet, its not important to waste time with tabloid, TV and social media.

Instead of spending hours with the newspaper, I put up with the world happenings by browsing the caption. If I come across a topic which interest me, I can easily dig into it further. Usually news feed are wrapped with misreport or inaccuracy in any event. So although we think we might be learning substance by consuming time reading or watching the news, most of the time we are clearly magnetizing void contents.

Depends on how you allocate your time. The moment you decided to analyze new potential on the important balance of life, there is a much more productive way than keeping up with the news.

Without disruption, minus anxiety, deeper concentration, more productivity, more wisdom. Its no picnic, but its all worth it.

By: Noli G. Cerrillo

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How Can We Detect Online Romance Scam

How To Detect Online Romance Scam

Girls aiming boys. Women con artist who zero in on men can present very enticing. They claim to be from another place. The more the place is inaccessible, the better.

Contrary to scammers who victimize women, these con women will sometimes claim to be single moms or single young attractive women (in photo at least)

They will sometimes tell stories about: Living with elderly parents of fragile relative in a place where livelihood is hard. This plot sets up the nice background for needing money.

Other cases like a blooming girl will claim to be accomplishing her schooling or managing a small business or if not, appearing hardworking and educated. Now If you think the story is “Too good to be true?...Then it is too good to be true”. 

Deception can even lead to years. Imagine the steady source of financial backup when the girl needs to pay her monthly bills or when the fridge is empty.

To cut the story short often times it ends up in a Skype chat. Things could get more intimate and she has captured or recorded secretly. Now, she will blackmail you for money. Threatening and controlling to make your life

“A Living Hell”

According to Wikipedia: A romance scam is a confidence trick involving feigned romantic intentions towards a victim, gaining affection, and using goodwill to commit fraud or blackmail.

Scam may involve access to victim’s money, bank accounts, credit cards, email or by getting the victim to commit financial fraud on their behalf.

What Are The Signs You Are Being Victimized

1. They have asked you for a money transfer even if you have not

met them personally

2. You have no solid proof and evidence of their existence. Try looking

at their Facebook accounts. Looks fabricated or recreated.

But of-course the conversation is real.

3. They are overly defensive or not definite or clear when you inquire

about their manner.

4. Their emails look like copy pasted from a poetry site.
    They will use the "jealousy"tactic to lure you to give your
    email password. 

5. Most communication is received and sent by text, email and

messenger

6. When you ask for photos, they will not send it right away.

if they do the will send you a slightly different person. Often

filtered

7. They will make excuses not to show their faces on webcam.

8. Makes too many excuses.

9. They have asked you to purchase laptop or gadgets or even open

an account for them. Usually victims are wealthy old businessmen.

10. They often tell stories they have lost their money, accident,

sick love ones, helplessness. But will not make it appear they are

not asking.

11. They request financial help for variety of reasons.

12 Appearing wealthy yet request money from you to invest in their

“So called” Business venture or daily living allowance.

13. They have contacted you through Facebook or games sites

pretending to be just gamers or people who just like to meet

other people

14. Look at their Friend’s list on Facebook. Not too many friends and

almost no relatives at all

My advice is never to commit about anything or send money or engage in any activity that will put you in a very compromising situation.

They will control you by showing you that they have access to your friends, co workers, parents or relatives. Yes even to your Email.

They will use “Fear” to control you. Most of the online romance scam happened quickly. Here are scammers who will religiously gain your trust, confidence and even love.

They are intensely patient.(to look real). In fact there are some reports and cases where scammers have to extend online relationships for months, or even many years before they start making up stories and lure you to act out of affection, care and love.

If you have been victimize don’t worry, my upcoming blog will be about a friend of mine who works in the company Facebook and Google. People who can trace conversation and secret nature of online scammers.

To give you an example: The picture used by scammers can give you a hint that something is not right. If someone sends you a request saying they’d like to make friends with you, but not a single mutual friend, that’s a red flag.

My expert friend suggest Save a copy of their picture and use

Google’s “reverse image search.” To check if that picture is being utilized for scam. If the picture appears on other profiles with different names, you should be cautious. It is potential that its someone looking for action on a dating site, but very possible to be a scammer searching for their prey. If you receive pictures and anything seems suspicious, be careful.

By Noli Cerrillo

Reference: MULE

Wikipedia

Paired Life
MUD

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Do You Know What You Dont Want In Your Life?

Do You Know What You Do Not Want In Your Life?

Over and above to figuring out what your prerogatives are. It is also wise to think about what you don’t want in your daily life. 
This is a nice contrast but a valuable one to prioritize. After all, it is your life.

We permit a lot of mental, emotional and psychological litter to occupy our minds and our lives obstructing our entry to our inner order.

This mess involve carrying out what we don’t want to do but continuously do, either

due to a promise that we’d do them or think that we must.

It involve giving time with people we no longer need to spend time with as a result of outgrowing the connection or because they do not share our essential best.

Like for example, doing work we actually hate doing. Adding too many things even if most of the things exhaust and give us unnecessary stress.

It implicate not doing sufficient of the things we truly desire.

It allow engaging in worthless rumor and pointless gossip that ditch our strength and leaves us feeling disgusting.

An astonishing extent of the clutter includes getting very upset about preceding event we cant correct, or being disturbed by forthcoming situation that may never occur.

As you progress headed for conformity in your life, you’ll discover a lot of this things will slump by the roadside. Some things, after all will need an exertion on your part to be assured they are erased.

You may want to ease down with your notes or if you are taking journal, make a list of stuff that are blocking in the way of your personal growth.

Then set up a method to get free of the powers that be.

Starting.......Now!




(By: Noli Cerrillo)

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How Can We Be Happier?

How Can We Be Happier?

You want to dance to your own rhythm right?

Do anything you want without criticism?

Get rid of toxic people?

Be in control?

Happier?

Stop Thinking About

1.Past Mistakes

Nobody is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes; its part of being human. You are allowed to cut yourself a margin of error. Be easy on yourself.

2.Failure

Everyone is scared to be labeled a “Failure”. And what is so frightening about the idea? Basically, it depends on your mindset to failure. If you see failure as not being flawless. You are going to be miserable.

If you haven’t given up technically, then, you are not a failure. Consider failure as a tuition fee, a trial and error procedure. See failure as your weapon.

3.Got To have.

People by default somewhat tend to go on the lack rather than plenty. Do not focus on what you don’t have,it is exhausting.
What the heck? Why not focus on what you have and what you do not.

Why torment yourself with all the things you don’t have? That type of thinking will not serve you in any fruitful way at all. Think about all the things in your life that you are grateful. There will always be others with plenty and others with less. What you have is decent. Don’t beat yourself up?

4.Worries

You can turn nuts thinking about the “what if’s”. Anxious about what might happen in the offing. No one can anticipate what will happen next (unless you are a psychic), there is no point in beating yourself about things that is not in any way going to happen. Think; this kind of worry is useless activity, Divert your mind. Face worry, bang! – if you can do a thing now? then do it, If not, occupy yourself and ‘put off’ the doubts.

5. It would be great, “only if” thinking.

When you believe that you will be happy once something has happened, You completely put your life on default until the event happens.

Be in the “Now” moment more and care less about being happy in the future. Decide to be happy now. Happiness is not a station, it's the trip.

6. Cry Over Spilt Milk

Regret is a part of life. The past cannot be undone, so it pays to look at what you have done in life as a person. Whats the moral of the story? If you learned never to do it again or to try other ways, as a result; Accept what has happened, make room for human error and move on. No use crying over spilled milk.

7. Fear Of Rejection

Many of us are so scared of rejection that we stay in our easy territory and never risk real closeness between people. Wear your heart on your sleeve and risk being defenseless. The more you hide out of fear, the greater the fear will develop. Show yourself that you can express your feelings and live with the result. You will conquer fear of rejection in this way and feel more carefree. Even if the outcome is not as expected, you will soon realize that it wasn’t as bad as you anticipated and that you can deal with it. Be a little more thick skinned, be brave and see life as an experience.

8. Public Opinion

Be slim, be pretty. Flaunt your money and prestige and at that instant you’ll be loved intensely? What nonsense. When you are confident, you don’t need to justify yourself to anyone. Don’t subscribe into the nonstop media model of perfection. Most of the images are either filtered or edited and lead us to accept that we become flawless. Don’t take it personally. Everybody prefer perfect appearance, but don’t forget the fact that nearly all can be technologically enhanced and not natural. Love yourself, flaw and all. Self approval is real power.

9. Approval

It’s not difficult to sense that we don’t measure up somehow. We live in a combative world. It’s acceptable and even normal to need to improve and be better as a person. It becomes bad, though, when we internalize cynical ideas about how we aren’t worthy enough. Think about, What is “qualified enough”? Where is the globally accepted standard manual that analyze what “qualified enough” is? As long as you feel satisfied, wheresoever and the distance you have reach, that’s about the size of it.

We are all anxious needlessly and create our own inner pain. Remember my suggestions, you may now cross out from your anxiety or fear list all the worries that is making you unhappy.

By: Noli G. Cerrillo

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Why I left The Corporate World In 2000

Why I left The Corporate World In 2000

In my story, it was the point where I finally cracked. With all the mainstream issues I was faced with, let it be careless use of basics, pollution of the mind in the office, backstabbing and character assassination, you name it..

It can start through lifestyle choices, like by thinking twice about how we spend our money when we go shopping, but also by choosing carefully who, and for what, we want to work for.

It’s easy to give in to the eye opening desire to shelter. Cling your possibilities first. If it doesn’t feel right, there’s a good chance it’s not. And even though you might lose a little in terms of initial income or position, you’ll gain a whole lot more in the long run.

If it is in any consolation, I have come to realize that it feels much better to fail at something you love... than: To prosper in something you don’t care about.

But I did not quit, I started my own business.



By; Noli Cerrillo

Do You Want To Add 1 Hour A Day To Your Life?

Do You Want To Add 1 Hour A Day To Your Life?

Experts say; We must rest before we get tired, then we add one hour a day to our life.

But How Do We Relax In This Noisy And Demanding World?

One writer Ernest Rossi has formulated a “20 minute rule”, which is based on the theory of ultradian rhythms.

Rossi suggested, and indeed practices the pattern of working for 90 minutes and then taking a 20 minutes break.

During breaks

1. Relax in various moments. Let your body go soft like an old sock or you can imagine a cat. Have you ever seen a cat sleeping under the chair or on top of a cabinet?
   If so, both droop like a damp newspaper. Observe the lazy napping cat.Be like one.
2. Always work in a convenient position. The tightness in the body bring about aching shoulders and uptight weariness.

3. Lie flat on a hard floor whenever you feel tired. Stretch as far as you can. Roll around if you want to. A good hard floor is better to relax on than a soft mattress or a comfortable sofa. Gives more support. Perfect for your spine.
   If its impossible to lie down, then you can accomplish the same result sitting down in a chair. A hard, upright chair is perfect for relaxing. Sit on a chair like a stiff Egyptian Pharaoh, let your palm rest on top of your thighs.
   Thinking nothing, doing nothing.

4. Close your eyes. Sigh. Take slow deep breaths from your nose. Hold it for 5 seconds and slowly release the air through your mouth. Repeat several times.

5. Stretch as far as you can and yawn as if you just woke up.

Bored To Death?

Yes this could have a double meaning because literally, boredom causes excessive fatigue that could lead to serious health conditions. Yes, even death.

Joseph E. Barmack, Ph,D., Published in the archives of Psychology a report of some of his experiments showing how boredom produces fatigue. These test showed that the blood pressure of the body and the consumption of oxygen actually decreases when the person is bored, and the whole metabolism picks up

immediately as soon as he begins to feel interest and pleasure in his work.

According to Better Health Channel; Each year, around 1.5 million people see their doctor about fatigue. Fatigue is a symptom, not a condition. For many people, fatigue is caused by a combination of lifestyle, social, psychological and general well being issues rather than an underlying medical condition.

According to Dr Mercola;

Researchers analyzed questionnaires completed between 1985 and 1988 by more than 7,500 London civil servants. The civil servants were asked if they had felt bored at work during the previous month. 

The researchers then tracked down how many of the participants had died by April 2009.

those who reported they had been very bored were two and a half times more likely to die of a heart problem than those who hadn’t reported being bored.

What is fatigue caused by boredom?

"When you’re bored, almost anything else can be more attractive than what you’re doing," says Gordon Logan, PhD, a psychology professor at Vanderbilt University in Nashville, Tenn.

Logan's tip: Give yourself little rewards, like a coffee or a favorite snack, for staying on task for a specific period of time.

In most situations, fatigue is caused by the lifestyle choices we make example; smoking, drinking, a poor diet, too little exercise, overeating, and plain old lack of sleep. Fatigue may also accompany loneliness or boredom.

Oprah Winfrey—A meditation advocate recently named as one of the most powerful celebrity of 2013 by Forbes — has said she sits in stillness for 20 minutes, twice a day.  

After a meditation “I walked away feeling fuller than when I’d come in. Full of hope, a sense of contentment, and deep joy. Knowing for sure that even in the daily craziness that bombards us from every direction, there is — still — the constancy of stillness. Only from that space can you create your best work and your best life.”

Training your body to relax fully will tranquil the mind and prepare you for the meditative stage, thus achieving calmness and re invigoration.

On returning to your work or task after that 20 minutes, you will see things new and deal with them quickly and easily, as the mind and body are prepared to climb up to top performance. You are good to go again for the next 3 to 4 hours.

-By Noli G.Cerrillo

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    References;

•   Dale Carnegie-How To Stop Worrying And Start Living
•   Joseph E.Barmack, Ph, D.,
• .  Ernie Rossi
• . Instant Meditation For Stress Relief by John Hudson
• . Better Health Channel
• . Mercola
• . WebMD
• . Reader’s Digest Best Health
• . The huffington post